Priority: Do we really have a set of prorities?

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You know, often we ask ourselves why things don't work right?, why things don't come the way we expected?, I didn't get this I didn't get that and that or even that. Well I think we are starting to notice the problem already. I wasn't writing this entry I was focused on getting the next entry done as soon as possible but I was a little blocked. Yesterday my girlfriend was coming over to visit me, I read on my phone the following "Vic you are not gonna believe what happened in the train, I'm still in shock." What happened was that this woman was traveling with her 3 years old son, she started to argue with this woman before boarding the train my girlfriend was already riding. Here come the gravity of this matter. The two women continued to argue some of the argument was about her son, suddenly there's a fight, a fight break out inside the train. The reason of the fight? A seat none of them was willing to give in the seat. Meanwhile the poor little kid is frightened he doesn't want to come in because there are two giants (no that there were big but for a three years old, any adult is a giant) the kid was terrified because there were two giants fighting in his path and can't move. The train was about to leave the boy in the station, my girlfriend this is one reason why I love her so much; she frantically pulled the kid into the train just before the train closed the doors. BELIEVE IT OR NOT the woman kept on fighting the other woman over the seat. She did not worry about her child about 5 stops later which is equivalent to 2 miles. She obviously set her priorities, but did she have the right priorities?
I believe priorities and goals go hand in hand check out my entry on goal settings couple of months ago. Feel free to click the link to re visit that entry if you like.
A L Williams a man so hated by the insurance industry but they have reasons to hate him, the consumer have no reasons to hate him at all. Anyway, A L williams said about priorities that you have to make sure you set your priorities right, Family is first, God is second, then your business. You see, some people talk so much about oh my family this my family that, but this is how they operate. Get up early, let the older sibling or a babysitter to drop the kids at school. work the entire time, come back home and tell kids "leave me alone I'm tired" then go to sleep and do the same the next day. How is that working for the family? this person clearly is putting business or job before family, God hopefully is put second (if this person pray every night before bed) but otherwise God is put last, is weekend, too tired to go to church is time to be with my kids before I go to party :0  OH WOW. How about this other one? the person work all day long, hardly see the family, Saturday spend it in bed resting. "Dad I have the championship game today" the father's response is: " I have to go to church" or " I have a meeting to attend" tell me people, how is that kind of lifestyle right?
People tend to forget what's first or set the first priority wrong. Yes chase your first priority but end up empty handed. I once started in a project for a book but I got lazy and never even got half way. I had a bunch of ideas but never put the book together. One of the notes say "man is crazy over getting rich, crazy over getting that treasure that he forgets his family, all he does is yell and ask family for favors but is never there for them." "seeing his negligence his family move out of the house, his friends now dislike him" Well shame on me, that's a very good line right there I believe that you should always keep in mind what's first and doesn't matter how much you go after those other priorities, your first priority is first all the time. Taking ALW classification of priorities I believe that you should always be there for your family and friends, remind them how much you love them. If you follow any religion I believe you should talk to God at least once a day. See the pattern? people in your life are first, because when you are gone, they will keep your memory alive. Remember that time you got fired from your job? how about you, Remember when you quit your last job? Did you die? it let you know now that ALW is actually correct, money is last priority. Sure it get you a lot of fancy stuff and make your life easier. But money have the tendency of leaving you quick and sometimes leave you without even announcing is leaving. I believe that if you are at work you should call your home and talk to your house, ask for your kids or siblings.
Remember when I started the entry talking about "how come I don't get this?, or this or that?" One of the most effective weapons is the sniper rifle. What makes the sniper rifle so effective? First of all I have never held a gun (except on call of duty I have killed what could be the total population of Haiti, maybe Jamaica queens) I know of guns maybe less than you. What makes the sniper rifle so effective? it has an eye piece, cross-hair that blocks whatever is around you and focusing exclusively in the target, unlike other guns that make you miss more shots thank those you fire. I believe I have stated my point here. When you don't focus in a specific goal, when you don't know what your priorities are, is very likely you end up all over the places, is very likely that you don't succeed at it. And don't tell me that you don't have none. Even if you are a teenager struggling to graduate because your Math is a mess. I believe you should focus on getting better at Math that's a secondary priority because I believe you want to graduate right? then that's your priority. I want you to know that priorities change as you go on with life. Graduated, no family of your own, no job? well I believe your priority should be getting a job before finding that perfect match for your family. If you are past your years of raising a family I believe your main priority should be staying healthy to enjoy more of the family you raised.
I believe you should know what your main priority is, what are your secondary priorities, satisface your main priority and keep working on satisfying your main priority rather than be all around. I took this picture from another blog I will give you the link to that other wonderful article. This person picked the correct picture for that entry. Notice what the balance has on the beer representing fun and the books representing work and responsibilities. "How come I never get to do nothing right? nothing come out the way I want it... Success is not for me" My friend, with all the respect you deserve I don't think you are working as hard, you are not that focused. Or maybe you are putting too much pressure on you and letting obstacles take over you. Pay attention to this: A profesional basketball player in practice could shoot around 75% from the field, a good three point shooter could hit around 65% in practice. Let's go into the game now, the pressure that you have to win (pressure) may reduce effectivity, in rare cases some players grow bigger in games. No problem, we have the defense (obstacles) Now instead of 75% we have a star player shooting 45% unless is a center who usually shoot 50%-65% high percentage shooters I didn't even think of how higher they would shoot in practice because the percentage is ridiculous. We have a three point shooter going from 65% to 42%. How do this applies to you? When relaxed no pressure, sure you can perform well at anything. But we have to accept that life is full of obstacles to overcome. We all have to learn to overcome them not give up to them. Obstacles will always be there to challenge you. But let me tell you, if your priorities look like the picture above, then there's no secret on why things are not coming right for you, you would be in for some empty life. Should work harder than the fun you have. I never expected to get a quote from this guy but I got one that stuck all the time

"My crew and I made sure to have a lot of fun, but we worked as hard as we had fun"

                                                             50 cent's characted on get rich or die trying
Have fun but work as hard, keep those around you happy so they cushion your falls and get you back up.

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Education, what you say you have or what people see you have?

Yes I know, this happened a week ago. Hey still hot!! damn Gay marriage legislation here in New York is the new trend. Anyway when this happened I was working on my past Entry "inside or outside what's the real matter that counts" thanks for your overwhelming support on that entry. Well I have to admit I pushed the envelope a little promoting this entry. Hard to believe in a single day in less than 4 hour you guys visited that entry 23 times. Taking down the all the ones that were all time leader. Well at least they still show in the lower part of this blog.
Well, I hardly post in between, this is supposed to be one week, then one week rest and then publish again. But bear with me with this brand new entry I couldn't let this one go by.
Education is always a big issue for families, they want their kid to attend the best schools, they want their kids to be professionals, they want their kids to be an example to follow. Every parent want that. I bet you want that. Even if you don't have kids yet I bet you want the best for them when you have them, if that's what you want, continue going to school (if you are a student) and make yourself an example to follow. As a parent I bet you are checking your kid's activities on the computer if your children left this open, let me tell you that  your son/daughter is plugged to the worst blog in the world pass this around to your neighbors. But seriously I believe you want the best for your children.
However there's one thing we miss. Lately parents are becoming lazy, they drop kid after kid, so many that they can't even handle. I believe there's a limit for everybody. My grandma Cristina had 11 all of them really good people well educated. But there are people that bring three maybe four and half of them are a disaster, they don't educate them properly hoping school will give them the education they need. Well I got news for you, school is full of parents just like you teaching (not taking nothing away from good teachers including my own who might be reading this right now) I got news for you. The parents left their kids to teach Math and reading not to do your work. Then you start complaining "Who the $#$ taught this to my son?" Well I have your answer, street, other kids, you name it.
I believe that when you have education, education should flow out of you, shows thanks to maturity and the way you react to certain issues, how that person handle him/herself in public, choice of words. There's not math, Science that teach you that. A month after I released this entry I ( I edit when I launch it in Spanish) I participated in a program to train to be better at customer services. It worked this way, we would read something then we would talk in open discussion about it. While walking home with a classmate she approached me and told me that I'm a little confusing, I talk too mature but I look young. Her surprise was when I revealed my age I'm indeed young. I didn't tell her the schools I went to, I didn't tell her of my training. I'm speaking about it here just to tell you the story. Education is something that start in the family, inside the house. If school was all the education we need, then my grand father would be the least educated man you would know of. He only finished 2nd grade and his family is extensive and well educated and knew how to socialize, if I he was alive you wont believe that man had so little school education he only learned to read and basic math and that was all. My father finished the sixth grade was awarded the eight grade but never attended for many issues not exactly because he wasn't looking to amount to something. But I assure you if I put my father in front of you in a suit and with a briefcase. As a matter of fact just his regular clothing, many successful educated people didn't use a suit at all (example A L Williams), the way he express himself, the way he handles himself you would think he's a college educated man. However he will show you his level of education when you assuming he's a college educated man start talking of stuff only someone with a level over High School would answer. My father hasn't get kicked out of a train, car, bar unlike this woman.
After reading this statement I believe the question here is, What's the real education is it in a school or a family? It doesn't matter where you graduate from if your family didn't educate you well you will be a complete animal. These two men I previously spoke about never knew the feeling of graduating but they learned to be disciplined, so much that when they got to school, they quickly absorbed a lot of information that they used for the rest of their lives. That woman up there is full of knowledge but zero education and consideration.
I started two paragraphs above saying: that education should blossom from you, people would see it. This is the one big problem with some "educated people" they see you working with transportation, parking, cleaning, etc and they tend to diminish you, they tend to talk too much crap about their skills, they tend to open their mouth too loud about the school they went to. By the way that should be on the resume not the conversation. I even joked on one comment on that article saying "I'm surprised this wasn't my cousin" hurts but I think there's one of those in every family. Someone capable of throwing you her resume during a family reunion. Imagine how uncomfortable is saying "hey is my cousin" that's embarrassing you publicly. The surprise for the doctor who insulted the cleaning lady, how meaningless she is. Two years later she get the shocker that the new sensation of the hospital is a lady that graduated with honors and happen to be the former cleaning lady. Or that the "meaningless" cleaning lady is retiring because she accomplished her goals, the reason she is retiring is because her children finished college and one is the new doctor in the hospital. Never judge nobody you never know how it would hit you later on. Education should be recognized. The fact that you are educated don't give you the right to literally throw up your resume on top of people. I believe is either insecurity (the need to show you are better than somebody else) or lack of education.
Some "educated people" feel the need to barrage their entire career and instead of helping you sometimes they prefer to try to put you in ridicule. Well is the same with these three army guys hiding with a AK47. One these guys was given one a tank, the other one placed on a Gatling, the other was seen incapable of operating a Warcraft equipment or even surviving. These two went on a rampage. Only that something failed, the guy in the tank ran into a mined camp, the guy on the Gatling gun got a grenade, while the one with the AK47 survived. Sometimes is not what you have what matters but how you use it. Have a lot of experience, "education" but don't know how to deal with people. You are dead meat. I wish I was working where this woman works just to enjoy the daily jokes on this video. I'm sorry I should be neutral. Anyway I would enjoy that, wont you? sometimes you think you are immune but in fact your are not, you are rotting. This is the problem I see with "educated people". You are educated? show you are educated, someone with less education would look at you and emulate you. I think that make a better society.

" After the altercation, the conductor came on the loudspeaker and reminded people to keep conversations quiet, "especially those people who went to Harvard or Yale or are from Westport."     Liz Goodwin Yahoo news

Yes you guess right, she was the joke of the whole train trip which is what happen when you try to ridicule people who have done nothing to you.  It hit you right back making you the laugh of an entire nation. In these Youtube times.
My uncle T. H. say all the times "I get to places, you see people oh I know this I know that, while I stand there like if I don't know nothing. I don't need to let people know what I know because they didn't ask me. I'm there just seeing people's knowledge acting like I don't know nothing and trying to see if there's anything else for me to learn. But if I'm asked to demonstrate what I know, run for cover." I believe I'm done with this entry. I don't think there's anything else to say.

By the way lady, quiet on the train PLEASE

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Goal: The essence of succeeding or failing

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How many of you have seen a race where the runners don't know where is the end, in which direction is the end? How many of you would be interested in participating in a race like that? I don't know you, but I think that me and you might agree that doesn't make sense to embark in a journey if you don't know where you are going. It doesn't make any sense start in a career that you don't know exactly what you expect from that career, what you want to achieve.
I often talk about my current career, but I have to admit I wasn't really feeling energized about this no more, I wasn't feeling so eager to do it no more until someone shed some light, injected some fuel in me. I have been in business for over two years now and it been a roller coaster of emotions. I often questioned how some of my colleagues stay excited after being in business 20-30 years. Some weeks ago someone who's been in business for 15 years building a successful business the right way started to talk about what motivate him to be in business. And just last week the same guy came back to his old topic talking of what motivate him, his goals and dreams. "you have to start questioning why are you here" mmm that was a very good question.
You see, when I first started in business I just wanted one thing in special and that was retire my father. He's currently 55 years old and haven't stop working since he was 10, travel, and provide a good life for my family. Sound pretty descent to me but that's not going to fire me up. WHY? I don't have a clear goal. Sure I knew what I wanted, sure I knew what I wanted to do, but the mileage of my race wasn't determined. I didn't know how much I wanted, I hadn't specified a distance for my goal and so I hadn't specified what price to pay.
I have the best opportunity in the world for a regular man like me in North America and I would find myself coming from my job and straight to play video games, watch tv, take whole days off lagging in front of the computer doing nothing, just seeing others living their dream. What about mine? You know what happened? I didn't have a goal an exact goal. My goal was: helping my father to retire but this is not a viable goal due to the fact that if I get far, I get to help my parents anyway. It happens that if my father get me upset at least for that day I'm out from chasing my goal, I wanted to travel, well with so many stuff going on around the world.. I refuse to watch news but there are some news that you just can't ignore and looking at how things are I don't think I might be that eager to travel, then is the fact that I want to provide the best to my family. At the time I'm writing this blog I'm not married not kids, and have a girlfriend well at least I have that. but is just the same as my father. If my girlfriend get me upset I'm out of the chase too.
I made sure to set up a goal that keep me ignited I put on paper how much in total I want to make two years and a half from now. You see, I'm not longer placing my goals in someone else's hands. You might agree with me that the momentum of my goals was handled by my father, girlfriend and the news. Worse, they didn't know about it. Placing an specific goal on paper would remind me to just do it, it doesn't matter how angry I get with my father, my girlfriend . I think it would help me get there faster. Family time, oh I'm mad at them ok family time is work time now.. I'm just joking I really love my family. Putting down in paper my goals would remind me to just got after it independently of what happens with my girlfriend, parents, or the world. I only know I have certain amount of time to make certain amount of money. What would happen (please God don't let that happen) if my father died? I'm pretty sure that in the past my goals would have died too. In the present my goals continue only with the sadness that my father didn't see me succeeding. Also is important to have someone to be accountable to could be a son/daughter, your wife/husband, boyfriend/girlfriend a good friend, and or co-worker. For the following reason if you are the only one who know of your goal is very likely that you get out of the chase for your goals "if nobody know, there's no sin. Instead of working my business, let me watch some tv, I deserve some rest" It happens that you really enjoyed and the next day you are in the same. When you come to realize you are lost in laziness. Having someone to be accountable to achieve 3 things
1) Create a sense of consciousness, a sense of urgency "Oh John is looking at me to see if I'm serious of my goals I better set out to work"
2) Activate John to call you out when you are getting out of your objective
3) Someone to follow your progress and someone who know what you are talking about
"Well Victor this is another good post for those who have business" NO what I'm stating here is that whatever goal you want.
1) Find out what you want to achieve. has to be clear, something you really want, not something that sound beautiful.
2) Specify a date for when you want to achieve that goal
3) Write them down in a piece of paper that you are going to carry with you everywhere everyday, place it around keep it visible get obsessed with your goal. If your goal is a car, get a picture of that car, or a similar model and keep it visible.
4) Determine the price to pay for your goal and very important Do not negotiate the price. Remember the
5) Determine who can help you to stay in focus, and help you to get there. I have the fortune and misfortune to have John Mcmullen, Charles Lutz and my girlfriend in my business. They contact me almost daily to see my progress. It's a misfortune but good misfortune because there are days that I promise to do something, I don't do it and then I try to hide. Hey I'm afraid of giving the message that I'm not serious or that I failed.
6) Find out if you need to develop any specific skills to achieve that goal.
 7) Develop a plan of action
8) Celebrate
Let say that you want a better relationship. I believe that the logic is write down that goal and put it in a place that only you know of, put a SPECIFIC date and I hope the date is not "as soon as possible (ASAP)" Honestly that's undefined. Analise the situation well and put a date according to the gravity of the situation, after that you must find out the price you have to pay. "well we are in this mess because I spend too much time  watching sports on TV, instead of paying attention to her, never tell her how good she cooked. I will cut down the TV time, maybe get home earlier so I have my tv time and don't miss my favorite show and my favorite woman, maybe call her more when I'm out." "Well maybe I learn new recipes and don't bore him with the same food." maybe I cut down my phone time with my friend and so we can talk more and leave the tv for me as he does after I hang up the phone." Sure you know what to sacrifice to fix the problem. Maybe you spend far too much time on the computer. If you spend it reading this blog double thumbs up :D invite your spouse and send to friends :D Now seriously, talk to someone maybe a good friend, someone that have that relationship you dream of, if you don't have a friend with those characteristics find someone who do, talk to that person about their relationship, what you see good, what you want in your relationship. NEVER SPEAK IN TERMS OF WHAT YOU DON'T WANT just focus on what you want. It would become natural for John to ask how is your relationship going because John is working with you to fix it. You have chosen John to guide you, John is an example of what you want. John will give you advices and maybe help you to develop a plan to achieve your goal. You just need to ask. Lastly you have to celebrate, after achieving your goal invite John and spouse to eat with your spouse, dance, sing, go crazy you made it, is your time. You know what time is it? time to identify another goal and go after it.
Anything you want to achieve doesn't necessarily have to do with business, but in every aspects of life you have to see look at what do you want to accomplish, when and what are you willing to pay. Maybe is that one week vacation to Florida next summer. Hey have you noticed you work everyday, pay $100 something for your cable and you only watch one channel? How about giving up the cable and get that money together and have your well deserved vacations.
You have to know with clarity what you want, you have to know when you want it, what are you willing to give up to get that goal, who would you need to help you out to reach that goal if relationship wise who do you think have a great relationship and might give you good advice, who is successful and might give you good advice. And finally don't forget to write it down. Be serious of your goal remember a deal is not a deal unless you sign the papers.
BUT the greatest problem with humanity is that we are willing to get but we are not willing to pay the price for what we want, we are not willing to sacrifice. One very important thing you have to remember is that if you do what the crowd do, you would end up with the crowd, if you do what others are not willing to do, you will get what others don't get.

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Your attitude and Success

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Hello everybody I thank you for being a loyal audience. This is my first entry for this year and I'm thankful to have you all here reading me it was a long absence but things happen.
The other night I was playing some video games with my brother. He? well me and him grew up together we were the closest in height in the house. I have 3 brothers but he was the one willing to go with me and play baseball, let's go and try to play some basketball. I have two others but one was always sick to go and be crazy like us and the other one was a baby we can't take him to play baseball with us come on. He was a cool guy we would have a lot of fun, very respectful kid, I hardly saw him doing homeworks and somehow this kid always did average in school. However he started to hang out with the wrong crowd I say. He brought in good values we didn't have. I used to thank God for the food but by myself we never sat on the table to pray and thank God for the food. Surprisingly now I'm doing it that's really good. But at the same time my brother is yelling at everybody,  saying horribly tasting jokes like "hey piece of $#$ how you doing?" that's terrible there.
Well the other night we were playing NBA 2K11 and well I have a bad controller PS3 please check your controllers all of them are messing up the same way. I go for a dunk and the player end up passing the ball in mid air. Most times that would result in turnover, or I would go for a dunk and it would start marking a play I never heard of and now I have to execute it and unfortunately the play ends with a dunk I do it and is 24 seconds. Add that the fact that I'm talking to my girlfriend. He was winning by 18 points with 3 minutes left and one of my best players injured thanks to attempting to make a pass in the air. Why did he started to jack 3 after 3 after 3 it seemed like a 3pts contest. He won by 40 because my defense was bad thank to the controller. I stood up and said I'm not playing with you no more. His answer? "come on bro I haven't been here since Thursday and that's what you give me" what I said to my pal, my gaming buddy, my best friend was even more surprising "Damn seems like it was yesterday that you was here" he was actually out for 4 days.
What I'm asking you now is where are you? are you the one that people can't wait to see you that people love to be around or you are like my brother you are out for four days and seem like if you left yesterday? If you are planning to be a happy person, have a lot of friends, if you are planning to be the go to person, if you are planning to go in business you better make sure you are the one people can't wait to see. A L Williams said that nobody like to be around a complaining cry baby. Nobody want to be around someone with a bad attitude. That's true you gotta make sure to have the attitude that if you go out in business the whole world want to follow you. You have to make sure that if you go away, people miss you. Make sure if you go away for a minute people don't exhale and say "thanks God"
But how you do it? make sure you have a great attitude, make sure to be excited about anything even the $200 dollars check you are getting Friday. Make sure you are a happy person that raise curiosity and people will come to you just to see what are you happy about. In some cases they think you are high on something or something like that. One day I think last month one of my former schoolmate (sorry I don't have your name here) posted this on her facebook. I completely agreed with her and so did 19 who clicked like and other 9 who commented including myself.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. - Buddha

Well guys to be honest with you this quote better fit another blog entry coming up. But it helps reminding that you have to be happy in order to succeed.
We all know that you can't be in business by yourself. Business is nothing but a happy person with some products and services to provide. Sometimes like in my case besides the products and services you have a business opportunity to offer. Remember what I said about always be happy? about always be excited about something? people would never know of your business because they will never approach you or let you approach them if your attitude suck. You smell bad, you don't dress properly, you have profane language, you walk by life like if someone owe you and forgot and worse you forgot how much. My friend you will never make it. "Ok Victor I learned that but I've been trying and it feel fake" Bill Whittle a great guy, very successful man in my business said "do it anyway, it would feel weird in the beginning it would feel fake in the beginning but soon you find your groove you put your own stuff and guess what? wouldn't be that fake no more" make it your own, mean it "well Victor I have been trying for 2 weeks and doesn't work" well i tell you what my friend, go and plant a corn seed and wait for it to grow and reproduce. It wont happen right? Nothing happen overnight, success is not meant to be overnight. During this absence I have been working hard on my business, I have been reading books, attending meetings and events. You have to cultivate yourself in order to succeed. "well Victor I'm a grocery owner and all I have to do is open the door and people walk in" Awesome my friend good for you. Now go and yell to a couple of your employees and then yell to some customers and see if you have happy employees tomorrow. Also would help to keep a picture of that customer you yelled at and see if that customer ever come back. You have to have a good attitude at all times even if your business sell itself.
The other day I was riding the bus in Brooklyn. I come in talk to the driver it was the first stop I was going to Kings Plaza mall. I talk to the bus driver, also spoke to him about what I'm doing. The bus starts, three stops later after the driver had this smile he was going home after this trip and luckily he would finish it in good mood. An uncoupled couple comes in the guy first he swipes twice and the woman follow. The driver wants to know who is he paying for since there was a mother with 3 teenage kids she paid four times. The driver wants to know who he paid for and this is the conversation
Guy: "oh no I'm not with her"
Driver: "ok sir thank you but you paid twice, either she pays her fare to me or pays to you because you paid twice"
Guy: "who the &((* you think you are to tell me what to do? this is my wife and you better don't mess with her"
Driver: "Look guys I want you to respect my bus, this is business, you want to play your game? ok but outside my bus"
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That couple can't make new friends other than friends similar to them. You can't help it, some people just have a nasty attitude and would want to take you out of sync at any point. You have to be prepared to face them. In that case the bus driver trying to be all professional he ended up being influenced by the perverse couple and he ended up yelling at his replacement too. You have to be strong and counter all kinds of attacks to your tranquility. because there would be people trying to take you our of concentration, there would be people trying to distract you. Certainly you have to keep certain kind of people away if you want to be successful, you have to be willing to say no to certain people if you want to become someone meaningful. Stay focused and you will see it happening, welcome rejections, welcome difficulties, dance on the face of adversity and you will get stronger. Smile to life and success will find it way to you.

Thanks for reading and I see you in two weeks