Your Attitude and your social and physical health

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Positive attitude sometimes gets ignored and don't get the credit deserved and to be honest some people under estimate it maybe because they don't have it and to be honest with you a positive attitude is the hardest to maintain. I tell you right now I can start a big argument right now about the government and be all mad about it all day long. Not happy with that I go to a sporting event and find something to be mad about. I go and watch the Mets my favorite team beat up the other team 11-0 still I get mad because Ike Davis struck out with the bases loaded and ignoring the fact that he homered in that game. You see how easy is to be negative? Let's continue with the same "suppose game" Johan Santana strikes out 12 batters in that complete game yet I get upset he could have struck out 13 but with a 3-2 count the umpire called a strike as a ball resulting in a walk. See how easy is getting negative?
Now let me ask you something, Is that a healthy attitude? would people want to hang out with you with such an horrible attitude? I had the pleasure of reading "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen and this is what he had to say "...at the command of glad and beautiful thoughts it becomes clothed with youthfulness and beauty... Sicky thoughts will express themselves through a sickly body." WOW wasn't that powerful? I have had my days everybody is human I had my days where I go to sleep upset over something. The next day I feel drained like if someone sucked my energy while I was asleep, I don't want to get up, feel unusually tired sometimes even falling asleep while getting dressed. I don't feel sick is just out of energy. Then I recall the night before and realize is the time to change my attitude get up, dust off, and get ready to face this brand new day. I have come to realize that I'm more vulnerable when I'm affected by something. The winter of 2010 was the worst for me health wise. I look back and I realized what happened it wasn't the clothing I actually wore suit and on top of that a really good coat. Let's go back two months before that. I had a job I was the head of my department of just two, I thought everybody was my friend I was very happy there, I also had a business growing my team was small but I was traveling with two good friends of mine. I got fired from my job unexpectedly, my two friends quit on me and the business, the blog I just started wasn't receiving as many visits as I was expecting. True, it was in the beginning a site where I would just post random thoughts I wasn't looking for visits but once I started to get a few I wanted more. The Spanish version was a dismal at the moment I was receiving ridiculous amount of visits from non Spanish speaking countries and zero from Spanish speaking countries. All that was boiling up to a very upset me, nothing was looking up for me and I was tired of trying to stay positive and getting a slap in my face.
Let's jump to winter 2011-12 what happened to me health wise. I didn't even feel it was winter. True I got couple of episodes where I lost my voice momentarily but that was because of me practicing toward my youtube channel commentator tryouts and the cold weather. Let see what happened. My attitude changed I'm a happy man now expecting my first child OH YEAH I didn't say that before but my first born is almost here and I'm very excited. That alone made my attitude change 180 degrees, got a job, got promoted in my job now I'm an office manager, my relationship with those really close to me is way better now, I'm enjoying the fact that I'm writing and someone is reading. I wish I could see some comments.
My point in all this is that your attitude make you a healthier person and a better person. If you keep beating yourself over and over you will as well kill yourself.
Attitude, whatever attitude you bring you must always remember that will impact somebody at some point. People will either praise your attitude or will regret ever crossing paths with you. At the end of the day is up to you to decide how you want people to remember interacting with you.
A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of meeting Julia. Julia was a giant ball of energy very very interactive, sweet, welcoming, and a very impressive woman. Now let's take a look at Julia physically. An Asian woman barely standing 5 foot tall I believe she was around 4'8" in her late 60's I only know that because she said her age otherwise she looked nearly 20 years younger. I didn't meet her personally she was brought in by someone who helped her to seat by a teacher. Jenn and I were traveling to Brooklyn from Queens in the bus. She was talking to everybody she said hi to everybody as she was being escorted to her seat. She was moving to East New York Brooklyn and since all of her family was busy at the moment and couldn't help until like a few days later she took matters in her own hands. To me and to everybody this was very impressive because most people at her age retired and are just sitting around watching golf, traveling if they were lucky enough to have a good job in their youth. This woman instead was moving all the stuff she could to her new home. She said "you never know, people say they are gonna help you but just to make sure I the move is done I do myself what I can." all this with a big smile in her face, and this confidence that could be felt like an earthquake rows of seats away from her. Even people that were reading, listening to music stopped to listen to this woman. She left the bus many stops before mine and we continued talking about her. When I left the bus I realized that I would never talk to the person next to Jenn and the person behind and in front of me if it wasn't for a small but powerful energy ball named Julia. I could have get the contact information from everybody in that bus if I wanted to. It was even more shocking to me that one of the riders of the bus met a friend on the train we were transferring to and she spoke about this woman and suddenly the three people next to them were not talking but they were listening they were all nodding their head.
You see how the voice of someone's attitude spread? Now my question to close this topic is: How do you want to impact people today? do you want people to remember you as the positive individual? Do you want people to thank whatever God or force they believe in for putting you in their path? Or in contrast Do you want to be the one getting kicked out of the bus? Do you want to be hated? Do you want to be insulted? Do you want people to regret the moment you got in their paths?
Whatever decision you make I want you to remember that this not only affect your life socially but also physical and mental, that every time you change your attitude you also make possible for your health to change. I will prefer to be remembered in a good way when I depart a place, I want people to thank God they met me and send blessings my way. But I'm not sitting around being negative I work hard to keep myself positive. I'm not like Julia I wish I could match that energy but in the meantime I'm working to get there.

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How many of you have seen a race where the runners don't know where is the end, in which direction is the end? How many of you would be interested in participating in a race like that? I don't know you, but I think that me and you might agree that doesn't make sense to embark in a journey if you don't know where you are going. It doesn't make any sense start in a career that you don't know exactly what you expect from that career, what you want to achieve.
I often talk about my current career, but I have to admit I wasn't really feeling energized about this no more, I wasn't feeling so eager to do it no more until someone shed some light, injected some fuel in me. I have been in business for over two years now and it been a roller coaster of emotions. I often questioned how some of my colleagues stay excited after being in business 20-30 years. Some weeks ago someone who's been in business for 15 years building a successful business the right way started to talk about what motivate him to be in business. And just last week the same guy came back to his old topic talking of what motivate him, his goals and dreams. "you have to start questioning why are you here" mmm that was a very good question.
You see, when I first started in business I just wanted one thing in special and that was retire my father. He's currently 55 years old and haven't stop working since he was 10, travel, and provide a good life for my family. Sound pretty descent to me but that's not going to fire me up. WHY? I don't have a clear goal. Sure I knew what I wanted, sure I knew what I wanted to do, but the mileage of my race wasn't determined. I didn't know how much I wanted, I hadn't specified a distance for my goal and so I hadn't specified what price to pay.
I have the best opportunity in the world for a regular man like me in North America and I would find myself coming from my job and straight to play video games, watch tv, take whole days off lagging in front of the computer doing nothing, just seeing others living their dream. What about mine? You know what happened? I didn't have a goal an exact goal. My goal was: helping my father to retire but this is not a viable goal due to the fact that if I get far, I get to help my parents anyway. It happens that if my father get me upset at least for that day I'm out from chasing my goal, I wanted to travel, well with so many stuff going on around the world.. I refuse to watch news but there are some news that you just can't ignore and looking at how things are I don't think I might be that eager to travel, then is the fact that I want to provide the best to my family. At the time I'm writing this blog I'm not married not kids, and have a girlfriend well at least I have that. but is just the same as my father. If my girlfriend get me upset I'm out of the chase too.
I made sure to set up a goal that keep me ignited I put on paper how much in total I want to make two years and a half from now. You see, I'm not longer placing my goals in someone else's hands. You might agree with me that the momentum of my goals was handled by my father, girlfriend and the news. Worse, they didn't know about it. Placing an specific goal on paper would remind me to just do it, it doesn't matter how angry I get with my father, my girlfriend . I think it would help me get there faster. Family time, oh I'm mad at them ok family time is work time now.. I'm just joking I really love my family. Putting down in paper my goals would remind me to just got after it independently of what happens with my girlfriend, parents, or the world. I only know I have certain amount of time to make certain amount of money. What would happen (please God don't let that happen) if my father died? I'm pretty sure that in the past my goals would have died too. In the present my goals continue only with the sadness that my father didn't see me succeeding. Also is important to have someone to be accountable to could be a son/daughter, your wife/husband, boyfriend/girlfriend a good friend, and or co-worker. For the following reason if you are the only one who know of your goal is very likely that you get out of the chase for your goals "if nobody know, there's no sin. Instead of working my business, let me watch some tv, I deserve some rest" It happens that you really enjoyed and the next day you are in the same. When you come to realize you are lost in laziness. Having someone to be accountable to achieve 3 things
1) Create a sense of consciousness, a sense of urgency "Oh John is looking at me to see if I'm serious of my goals I better set out to work"
2) Activate John to call you out when you are getting out of your objective
3) Someone to follow your progress and someone who know what you are talking about
"Well Victor this is another good post for those who have business" NO what I'm stating here is that whatever goal you want.
1) Find out what you want to achieve. has to be clear, something you really want, not something that sound beautiful.
2) Specify a date for when you want to achieve that goal
3) Write them down in a piece of paper that you are going to carry with you everywhere everyday, place it around keep it visible get obsessed with your goal. If your goal is a car, get a picture of that car, or a similar model and keep it visible.
4) Determine the price to pay for your goal and very important Do not negotiate the price. Remember the
5) Determine who can help you to stay in focus, and help you to get there. I have the fortune and misfortune to have John Mcmullen, Charles Lutz and my girlfriend in my business. They contact me almost daily to see my progress. It's a misfortune but good misfortune because there are days that I promise to do something, I don't do it and then I try to hide. Hey I'm afraid of giving the message that I'm not serious or that I failed.
6) Find out if you need to develop any specific skills to achieve that goal.
 7) Develop a plan of action
8) Celebrate
Let say that you want a better relationship. I believe that the logic is write down that goal and put it in a place that only you know of, put a SPECIFIC date and I hope the date is not "as soon as possible (ASAP)" Honestly that's undefined. Analise the situation well and put a date according to the gravity of the situation, after that you must find out the price you have to pay. "well we are in this mess because I spend too much time  watching sports on TV, instead of paying attention to her, never tell her how good she cooked. I will cut down the TV time, maybe get home earlier so I have my tv time and don't miss my favorite show and my favorite woman, maybe call her more when I'm out." "Well maybe I learn new recipes and don't bore him with the same food." maybe I cut down my phone time with my friend and so we can talk more and leave the tv for me as he does after I hang up the phone." Sure you know what to sacrifice to fix the problem. Maybe you spend far too much time on the computer. If you spend it reading this blog double thumbs up :D invite your spouse and send to friends :D Now seriously, talk to someone maybe a good friend, someone that have that relationship you dream of, if you don't have a friend with those characteristics find someone who do, talk to that person about their relationship, what you see good, what you want in your relationship. NEVER SPEAK IN TERMS OF WHAT YOU DON'T WANT just focus on what you want. It would become natural for John to ask how is your relationship going because John is working with you to fix it. You have chosen John to guide you, John is an example of what you want. John will give you advices and maybe help you to develop a plan to achieve your goal. You just need to ask. Lastly you have to celebrate, after achieving your goal invite John and spouse to eat with your spouse, dance, sing, go crazy you made it, is your time. You know what time is it? time to identify another goal and go after it.
Anything you want to achieve doesn't necessarily have to do with business, but in every aspects of life you have to see look at what do you want to accomplish, when and what are you willing to pay. Maybe is that one week vacation to Florida next summer. Hey have you noticed you work everyday, pay $100 something for your cable and you only watch one channel? How about giving up the cable and get that money together and have your well deserved vacations.
You have to know with clarity what you want, you have to know when you want it, what are you willing to give up to get that goal, who would you need to help you out to reach that goal if relationship wise who do you think have a great relationship and might give you good advice, who is successful and might give you good advice. And finally don't forget to write it down. Be serious of your goal remember a deal is not a deal unless you sign the papers.
BUT the greatest problem with humanity is that we are willing to get but we are not willing to pay the price for what we want, we are not willing to sacrifice. One very important thing you have to remember is that if you do what the crowd do, you would end up with the crowd, if you do what others are not willing to do, you will get what others don't get.

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Your attitude and Success

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Hello everybody I thank you for being a loyal audience. This is my first entry for this year and I'm thankful to have you all here reading me it was a long absence but things happen.
The other night I was playing some video games with my brother. He? well me and him grew up together we were the closest in height in the house. I have 3 brothers but he was the one willing to go with me and play baseball, let's go and try to play some basketball. I have two others but one was always sick to go and be crazy like us and the other one was a baby we can't take him to play baseball with us come on. He was a cool guy we would have a lot of fun, very respectful kid, I hardly saw him doing homeworks and somehow this kid always did average in school. However he started to hang out with the wrong crowd I say. He brought in good values we didn't have. I used to thank God for the food but by myself we never sat on the table to pray and thank God for the food. Surprisingly now I'm doing it that's really good. But at the same time my brother is yelling at everybody,  saying horribly tasting jokes like "hey piece of $#$ how you doing?" that's terrible there.
Well the other night we were playing NBA 2K11 and well I have a bad controller PS3 please check your controllers all of them are messing up the same way. I go for a dunk and the player end up passing the ball in mid air. Most times that would result in turnover, or I would go for a dunk and it would start marking a play I never heard of and now I have to execute it and unfortunately the play ends with a dunk I do it and is 24 seconds. Add that the fact that I'm talking to my girlfriend. He was winning by 18 points with 3 minutes left and one of my best players injured thanks to attempting to make a pass in the air. Why did he started to jack 3 after 3 after 3 it seemed like a 3pts contest. He won by 40 because my defense was bad thank to the controller. I stood up and said I'm not playing with you no more. His answer? "come on bro I haven't been here since Thursday and that's what you give me" what I said to my pal, my gaming buddy, my best friend was even more surprising "Damn seems like it was yesterday that you was here" he was actually out for 4 days.
What I'm asking you now is where are you? are you the one that people can't wait to see you that people love to be around or you are like my brother you are out for four days and seem like if you left yesterday? If you are planning to be a happy person, have a lot of friends, if you are planning to be the go to person, if you are planning to go in business you better make sure you are the one people can't wait to see. A L Williams said that nobody like to be around a complaining cry baby. Nobody want to be around someone with a bad attitude. That's true you gotta make sure to have the attitude that if you go out in business the whole world want to follow you. You have to make sure that if you go away, people miss you. Make sure if you go away for a minute people don't exhale and say "thanks God"
But how you do it? make sure you have a great attitude, make sure to be excited about anything even the $200 dollars check you are getting Friday. Make sure you are a happy person that raise curiosity and people will come to you just to see what are you happy about. In some cases they think you are high on something or something like that. One day I think last month one of my former schoolmate (sorry I don't have your name here) posted this on her facebook. I completely agreed with her and so did 19 who clicked like and other 9 who commented including myself.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. - Buddha

Well guys to be honest with you this quote better fit another blog entry coming up. But it helps reminding that you have to be happy in order to succeed.
We all know that you can't be in business by yourself. Business is nothing but a happy person with some products and services to provide. Sometimes like in my case besides the products and services you have a business opportunity to offer. Remember what I said about always be happy? about always be excited about something? people would never know of your business because they will never approach you or let you approach them if your attitude suck. You smell bad, you don't dress properly, you have profane language, you walk by life like if someone owe you and forgot and worse you forgot how much. My friend you will never make it. "Ok Victor I learned that but I've been trying and it feel fake" Bill Whittle a great guy, very successful man in my business said "do it anyway, it would feel weird in the beginning it would feel fake in the beginning but soon you find your groove you put your own stuff and guess what? wouldn't be that fake no more" make it your own, mean it "well Victor I have been trying for 2 weeks and doesn't work" well i tell you what my friend, go and plant a corn seed and wait for it to grow and reproduce. It wont happen right? Nothing happen overnight, success is not meant to be overnight. During this absence I have been working hard on my business, I have been reading books, attending meetings and events. You have to cultivate yourself in order to succeed. "well Victor I'm a grocery owner and all I have to do is open the door and people walk in" Awesome my friend good for you. Now go and yell to a couple of your employees and then yell to some customers and see if you have happy employees tomorrow. Also would help to keep a picture of that customer you yelled at and see if that customer ever come back. You have to have a good attitude at all times even if your business sell itself.
The other day I was riding the bus in Brooklyn. I come in talk to the driver it was the first stop I was going to Kings Plaza mall. I talk to the bus driver, also spoke to him about what I'm doing. The bus starts, three stops later after the driver had this smile he was going home after this trip and luckily he would finish it in good mood. An uncoupled couple comes in the guy first he swipes twice and the woman follow. The driver wants to know who is he paying for since there was a mother with 3 teenage kids she paid four times. The driver wants to know who he paid for and this is the conversation
Guy: "oh no I'm not with her"
Driver: "ok sir thank you but you paid twice, either she pays her fare to me or pays to you because you paid twice"
Guy: "who the &((* you think you are to tell me what to do? this is my wife and you better don't mess with her"
Driver: "Look guys I want you to respect my bus, this is business, you want to play your game? ok but outside my bus"
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That couple can't make new friends other than friends similar to them. You can't help it, some people just have a nasty attitude and would want to take you out of sync at any point. You have to be prepared to face them. In that case the bus driver trying to be all professional he ended up being influenced by the perverse couple and he ended up yelling at his replacement too. You have to be strong and counter all kinds of attacks to your tranquility. because there would be people trying to take you our of concentration, there would be people trying to distract you. Certainly you have to keep certain kind of people away if you want to be successful, you have to be willing to say no to certain people if you want to become someone meaningful. Stay focused and you will see it happening, welcome rejections, welcome difficulties, dance on the face of adversity and you will get stronger. Smile to life and success will find it way to you.

Thanks for reading and I see you in two weeks