Is too cool a problem, or nerdy is the problem?

Excerpts from a comment thread in my brother's facebook page.

Hello dear audience and welcome to a brand new entry of Victor's Space blog. You know once again I'm featuring a real person into this blog. Trivia: Sylvanna Garcia becomes the first person no on my friend list to be featured in the blog, I came in touch with this comment accidentally I was intended to post a comment or two but got out of hand. I didn't prep her so I look cool if that's what you ask :D. This was funny, everybody knows of Facebook newest feature "closest friends" for those who still get e mails from facebook which I think is the smartest way to do so you stay in touch with your people. My brother posted this picture. Here comes the funny part, after standing in the line three hours and a half just a few days ago 11/7 (game out on midnight) we made it home to play a first match of Modern Warfare 3, everything is cool two playstations three guys all excited. Next day one of the systems break down (thank you SONY) so my brother decides to put one copy of modern warfare up for sale on facebook, Sylvana (the person featured here) comments on the fact that she's a newbie and she's having problems with her tv, a friend of my brother jump in for help. The whole point is no talks of my brother ever selling the game. Poor guy he was asking "what about the game?" but we were having a three ways conversation under his picture including that fine comment from Sylvanna to protect her privacy, some information provided on that comment was censored. Well entering the topic.
If you are up to date with this blog and saw my previous entry, you can surely assume I was kinda geeky in school, you are actually right, and thanks to that, I had a tough life relationship-wise in school. Since I can remember I always remember that my number one task in school was go and study, I didn't care what outfit was hot, I didn't even cared if my toes were coming out of my shoes. Main goal was number one wake up, two just wear something as long as it covers my body, three perform good in school. I also played little league baseball for a while I did ok I wasn't an elite player but I did far better in school. I wanted to be a profesional ball player and play for my favorite team The Mets, I had and still have a lot of passion for the game. But my grandfather saw in me that I could do better with my brain, my grades in school were more impressive than my baseball stats. I continued to go to school. I would just go to school all about business not about outfit or what is good out there. I didn't feel the need to impress nobody. Turns out that I did make friends really good friends but I also got leeches. If you recently got out of school and was one of those students that always did good you probably had some of those. You see in school academically there are these kind of people "Nerd (library rat)" the kind that is fashion backward, is all business no play. Other type they want to perform good in school, look somewhat presentable (that was me), "I don't care" the kind of students that don't work hard, they know that they are slow but don't seek help neither. If you wasn't none of these. I'm sorry no offense but you was probably a leech the kind who go to school, care about getting out of that jail but wont work hard enough, seek to become popular, graduate... Hey test tomorrow sit behind the nerd. "hey nerd you are my friend" yeah they remember your name and last name. I had many of those back in school. Last but not least is aggravated leech or hallway rats. The kind who cut classes, participate in all physical education classes even if they don't belong there, often bully others. The only reason these go to school is to meet with pals, show off the newest phone dad got them, listen to music outside school, smoke, or have sex.. That last one almost everybody do (not me), and again copy from the nerds. This not only applies to school.
You see, the way we grow in school is not only a personality we leave behind, is a personality we carry on through life dragging either prosperity or defeat. I don't even will mention to look around for bullies because I'm pretty sure that if you look at the news you would learn of several bullies right away. I wont even waste time talking about those is a very negative topic to talk about.
One very important thing to highlight on the above comment is that I did struggled big time. I was either too committed to my work, or just too slow to understand any life in school outside the classroom. As a teenager is a hard life, teenagers are the most judgmental people in the word. If you are a bad boy/girl chances are you become popular and others may find you interesting, datable. Completely the opposite of the geek and nerds the one too submerged in the book, afraid of breaking rules. Gez I knew people in high school too scared to leave for fire drills they though was mass class cutting. But people mature and the reality hits, there's no more trips to the principal's, security, dean's office. Outside school life bad boy/girl have these destination ranging from good to worse police precinct (dunking donuts) just kidding about dunking donuts but if you need a cop real quick check there first lol (I may get some enemies for this lol), seriously is the precinct, jail, or the graveyard, Would you like that path?. I'm writing one more entry coming in December where I state that back in high school I realized I was very popular I wasn't a wild child. However I was well known by teachers and students alike. Coming soon: "what does it takes to be popular" I'm also touching the senseless seniors vs freshman rivalry. Check it out this December.  
If you are at work, take a look at some of your co-workers you will see some and I please you be one of these. On top of every work, craving more work, researching. Well the whole point is making things happen at work super busy and only socialize when the work is over, or after 5PM. I used to work with this young woman Joy P. F. I so wanted to bring her over to my business she was a very hardworking young woman, very sociable, smart and fun. I look at her and she definitely give me the impression of nerd (hard woking student) when she was in school. All she would talk about was about work, she would sit there at her desk and talk nothing during work, if she stood from there was during break (this time she would escape from work wont take break with co-workers neither) and if she talked to me it was small talk then what she needed from me for work related matters. That's why I wanted her to work in the business because this woman is business no kidding around. Once I approached her to talk about joining the business to what she responded "after work please" followed by a smile. Here's is the problem, she leaves at 4:30 I leave at 5:00 so that meeting never took place.
Then there's the leeches those who spend 3 hours of 8 near the water cooler talking about everything but work, family, Monday night football etc. Those who spend a week doing the same project that you could have finished in just two days. These are called leeches because they don't bring much to the plate they bring a little or nothing for which they drain the environment causing serious damages to the workplace, society, etc. Thanks to that the hard worker have to load up more work in order to keep the company running. If you are in that group and that's why you are reading this because you are bored of browsing the internet and well let see what's up in blogger. First bookmark this blog, and step it up it is not fair using others, earning an easy check, many people are in need of some work. The difference between a hard worker and a hardly working person is that the hard worker is always hungry always think can bring more and haven't done enough yet.
Leeches are the most dangerous group because they damage the environment in other ways. They are very low efficiency team compared to the nerds. In the middle there are a bunch of other groups because they don't have an identity they can either be motivated to work harder, or be completely distracted by a leech moron. Pardon the vocabulary but I had to say it... Now I feel better.
Not only in the work place this applies everywhere. Let me tell you, if you are taking away from an environment and not bringing nothing in exchange, you are being a leech. Whether is your workplace, your community *(taking social security when you could have been working), or your home if you are not putting nothing you are a leech. Is your house? well you are the father of the house, you work and bring 70% to 100% of the income but you never spend time with your children, your wife don't remember the last kiss you are still being a leech because the man don't live of bread only. I have to admit I have been quite a leech myself sometimes at home and let me tell you, it's not that comfortable actually is very self-destructive. Let me tell you one more mistake some men do is tell the woman "baby stay home I would go out and make our money" now I'm gonna tell you the mistake some women make is listen to "baby stay home I would go out and make our money" and actually pay attention to that. My woman should be the queen of the house I would love to go out and make all of the money, here's the problem, something happen to the king, the queen can't defend the castle because she's used to have her feet up. I wont tell my wife go to work or come stay home. I just let her be. You see, naturally if you are a good person, hardworking, good hardworking people will look for you. If I tell her go to work she may think I want to live off her, if I tell her don't work I may destroy her wings. I would motivate her to work hard, I would motivate her to find some enjoyment some alternate activity besides work, home, kids. Here's where you will sure understand the king and queen analogy. I am a human being I'm meant to break down at times I'm supposed to get sick, Victor Space wont have the same writer forever one day I have to die. If so that happens and I was the only provider for "my castle" who will then keep the castle running. Can't be my wife because I got her so used to never work that now she's lazy and very weak. On the other side of the coin if something were to happen to me, my woman is already a worker, she will be motivated to work harder just to "keep the castle running".
One big mistake society have done with women is that they have been designated as the weak. Did you know that lioness are the ones that hunt while the lion stays taking care of the cubs? the only time the lion hunt is when the lioness is either sick or pregnant. Well well the king of the jungle seems to be the woman in our society. True, women are sensitive, not as strong and tall as most men but that doesn't mean that they can't do a thing. On a previous entry I was talking about how people condition their bodies toward weakness see the link in the bottom.
My point in this entry is: you can't never get what you want unless you go for it against any odds, against all obstacles life put you through. Hey life will throw dust in your eyes just to see how fast you are willing to get it off your face and keep running after your goal, I promise you that someday you will be kneeling on the floor begging for mercy, wishing you was never born, crying "why me?" "why things don't work out for me" that day, is the defining day, depending how you respond, your lifestyle would depend on that. What? Don't believe me? think about a homeless person, now think of guys like Donald Trump. If you read Trump 101 a really good book from Trump himself he actually told a friend "see that homeless guy right there? that guy has more money than me." One difference is that the homeless guy didn't know how to respond to that key moment, Donald Trump decided to battle, he decided his life was a special gift and he better make his time here worthwhile. If you are bulling, riding on someone else's back you are wasting a precious gift. That gift is called life, you are wasting an opportunity and you may also be ruining someone else's chances. You know, what I heard about bullies? just the most insecure people in the world, they probably struggle with something, have been told anything that make them feel bad about themselves and the only way to reasure themselves they are not that bad, is go and bully on someone. Unfortunately the likely victim is the group known as nerd, geek etc people that keep excercising the brain. So there you go, a giant body with a brain the size of a bean facing a hyper active body held by a body the size of a bean. In a physical battle obviously the nerd know can't win, the win will come years later when the nerd is the CEO of a company and don't hire the bully because lack of work ethic and obviously a past. Instead of bullying around Go out there and make a difference with your life, always remember that you have one life to live, unlike call of duty you don't respawn, when you are gone, you are gone.


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Inside or out what's the real matter that counts

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Running a little late this article was supposed to be released last week. I apologize for my delay. I was looking for a picture appropriate for this entry. I was put to work hard due to the fact that the source is a pretty busy page lol this Picture I will present you next stuck in my head for quite a while. I ended up going back two full months digging into this person's page. For the first time I'm featuring one of my contacts on Facebook. Thanks Victoria Thompson for allowing me to use your Facebook status as the picture for this blog. Those of you on her network just like me guys you have a treat. I believe her page is one of most dynamic pages I know of. She posts multiple times daily and is usually something worth reading or commenting on. Once Again Victoria welcomed to Victor's Space.

Victoria Thompson's facebook posting from April 26 which is also the birth of her group "love being Chunkii Me"

Often people concern about their appearance, they want the perfect skin, they want the perfect face, perfect teeth, they just want to look perfect. There are Esthetic surgeons I can't believe it, this actually became a profession some people actually make money out of people vanity. What I also came to notice is that people concern too much about their weight "I don't want to eat that much of that steak because I will get fat, get me some salad" First of all I'm a slim guy but if you as my woman make me look ridiculous by getting a salad and a glass of water in a restaurant that's the end of our relationship. I'm serious.
It is not a secret for my friend and family that I have certain preference when it come to women. I don't go for the "media beauty" I go for what my heart tell me and apparently tend to drive me toward bigger women. And you my friend sitting down there ashamed because your woman is a little big. Well at least she's not driving you crazy with "oh this will get me fat" she's just natural. I'm not saying fat is the way in fact for some people is not that healthy. I have, actually had (because I'm no longer looking thanks God for sending her) certain standards when it come to dating. She had to be someone beautiful inside and I'm not talking about all organs in good state that's not what I'm talking about lol. I talk about someone who is just a good person, someone kind. That's all the beauty I was looking for. However this wasn't my preference in my whole life. I chased after those "pretty girls" too which in reality women are all pretty not just certain group. The question I'm trying to address here today is, What do we do with the inside beauty?
Telemundo launched the soap opera "La Mujer En El Espejo" (The woman in the mirror) back in 2004 this soap opera was an unbelievable success sweeping audience records in every country broadcasted including USA I wonder if is available in English. The success of this soap was because talked in deep about this topic. Centers around Juliana Soler since she was 10 through adulthood a girl not so fortunate with physical appearance she wasn't so fortunate because her mother diss her all the times her mother is a former model, Juliana according to her mother can't even be a model in a circus. Juliana also counted with full support of her neighbors everybody loved her and respected her for being such a good person. Beside her upbeat personality she was also blessed with a big brain, she was very smart. As a gift her aunt (sister of her mother's mother) who is a magician made her a mirror that could bring out her inside beauty for twelve hours as long as nothing happen to the mirror. However her reflection on the mirrors would still be old Juliana Soler she can't work around mirrors or would freak out people. Her new appearance made the male protagonist a womanizer surrender to her not knowing that was the same woman he ignored on a previous encounter. Making this story short he learned to accept that although his girlfriend is not physically attractive she's a great woman and better than all those he dated. Obviously Juliana wasn't unattractive but she was always oppressed by her mother she was called in many instances "Juliana the ugly girl" this could be a spinoff from Ugly Betty only that this is a less comical plot. Ugly Betty is a comedy even in the original Spanish version that aired in 1999.
We live in a society where appearance has become incredibly important. We see ourselves bombarded with advertisements from all around the world where women look incredibly thin, women have face full of acne only on commercials showing the before and later for a cream that cleanse the face, being white is the best thing (not being racist here). Even children get bombarded with this generalization of someone's point of view on beauty. NO? Have you take a close look at Barbie? well I did see my cousin's Barbie not that I ever played with one of those. Anyway back on topic Barbie look all blonde and skinny. Lately they have been coming out with some brown dolls but they still look slim like the models they use on commercials and dance shows. Then the same girls are put to take a look at how a man should look like. Have anybody seen Ken? who in the world look like that? well to start with no man working 9-5 look that way. In fact not even a business man look that way. Business men still have to do some work, some traveling etc.
Boys are not left out of the equation neither. Let's take a closer look at our toys. Superman why doesn't he looks like an everyday man with super powers? but superman looks good and is big so he can beat the bad guy and have the girls too. A very popular case notice how Geeks are treated by the media. Take a Look at the popular Dragon Ball. Why can't Krillin be as powerful? well to start with the guy stands 5'7" as the most, Goku is easily 6'5" "oh Victor but Goku is a saiyan and Krillin is Earth link" OOOH Good you noticed. So why can't Vegeta be the hero? Vegeta stands 5'9" as the most and less muscles than Goku. In the same series Gohan a promising warrior at age 10 already surpassed his father's (Goku) powers. What happened? he followed his mother's advises to go to school and be a professional unlike his father. Well eventually he wasn't that powerful no more. As a boy you want to be the firefighter, cop (by the way the toy cops don't look like the real cops) the defender of the world. I want to be the defender of the world I better do like Goku and not like Gohan. Damn I think I might have to do an entry on the message the media send to people. We see all these ads and toys looking to perfect. However does this determine beauty?
Growing up I grew to like pretty girls. However I wasn't that much attractive for their taste and I would get straight out rejected and feel deeply hurt about it I even stopped revealing my feelings to someone. So bad that I lost possible relationships with other great women thanks to me not explaining my feelings.

Me in 2003 at Coney Island Beach please ignore the jeans shirt and
shoes in the beach  (was supposed to be with my brothers)

But then I started to look at these "beautiful girls" closer. They would talk trash about their friends, always too conscious of their weight, too insecure, would argue with her boyfriend if she spot him talking to a female friend. I just started to think: why bother? most of these women looked like a version of someone I previously saw on TV. I think we all agreeing now that the content inside the beautiful package is not so enjoyable after all.

Another memorable quote not quite sure if it was taken from somewhere all I kno is that it was broadcasted through Victoria's Thompson Facebook about a month ago. As you can see not many really noticed this quote and as you can see I missed this one =)

I don't think anybody can word this better. One thing is certain, people lack a lot when it comes to their relationship with others. I believe that in a relationship even if is neighbor you should remind that person how lucky you are to have them in your life. Hey let your man/woman know how good they look, even if the guy went and did the same haircut he did two weeks ago. Let me tell you, I can't wait to go and get a haircut just to see Jenn all over me "you look so damn sexy" I know she wont say it unless she mean it. She got a new look on her, hey pay attention to your woman. To be honest with you, for us men is more entertaining we have more hairstyles to look at, more variety, take full advantage enjoy and compliment your woman. Or is that you want her to stop dressing up for you and just stay home with the sleep wear? I can tell you that, for her is much easier to stay in her sleep wear rather than go through all that and get ignored.

I believe that when you open your mouth to compliment people you let out who you are as a person, you let them know the beauty that rests inside you. Hey there was this employee that did a really bad job? I'm not telling you not to reprimand your employee. Do it, but I believe you should first remind your employee when he/she did something good for your company, when that employee did an exceptional job. People love award and recognition and if the only reason you open your mouth is to punish, is very likely that nobody want to work with you. Nurture your employee, let him/her know you are looking and you care. I promise you that you will have a thankful more motivated employee, would care more for his/her work because he/she knows is working for somebody who make him/her feel good.

Let your friends, neighbors, family how happy you are to have them in your life, let them know how lucky you are to have them. I promise you that you will soon start to hear from them as well. People love recognition, let beauty come out of you and people will stick to you like steel to a magnet. It doesn't matter the way you look it doesn't matter how expensive your clothes are. People will always remember you for what you did for them rather for what kind of car you drove, how perfect your face was, how perfect your body looked. Yes they might remember you but temporarily. How about becoming immortal? Imagine your neighbor putting you in front of his/her kids as an example to follow, then those kids telling their kids about you. Isn't that exciting? many people have become legend for bad stuff, How about the chance of becoming a legend for something good? People will always remember you by the beauty of your soul rather than the corporal beauty. As some of us mature physical appearance lose interest, we start looking back our mistakes, how many names we called the fat girl of our classroom. In other cases unfortunately physical appearance become more important to other people. Why do we put so much emphasis on that anyway?

I always wanted to have a "beautiful woman" by my side for the rest of my life. Then I realized something. these beautiful 20 something year old girls of today will all become that 70 years old woman who is talking to another 70 yo woman they look closely the same. One save a picture of when she was the most popular girl in High School, the other one despises a picture that remind her of how painful that era was because no guy wanted to date her. I forgot to mention, these bodies underground look exactly the same. Then there's one conversation these women have, the first one talk about how she always exploited her physical appearance to get relationships and how her husband left her at age 60. The second talks about how she always focused on being a good person and nothing else, also talks about her first boyfriend who she met when she was 21 and with whom she still with.

Here is when you come to realize that at the end of the day, doesn't matter how much surgery, you do, doesn't matter the diets, how much you diss that chunky lady walking in the street, how much you despise talking to that geek next to that other person you despise. We all get to an era where appearance virtually disappear, we all carry the same inside you are not that special. I don't care if you belong to the "royalty" to be honest with you that's not that special is just a tittle.

I don't believe there's a therapy to beautify your inside but you just try everyday to be a better person, help those around you, make your presence be felt and heard. There's only one life and we better live it right.

See you all pretty soon. 

For season or for a lifetime

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This particular week I have been thinking about the kind of friends and something brought me to question, Are we with the wrong people? I notice that many people have friends by hundreds, when everything is going good, you have money, you have health, you have a multitude following you around. You are the King/Queen of the world everything is possible you have it all. Whenever you need something to be done, there's more than one hand willing to do everything for you, when you have a party your parties are the biggest you have the most people to go to your parties, you have the most people inviting you out to go to places (as long as you pay or provide some kind of fun) How is this bad? Seem like everything is perfect so there's nothing to complaint about. Really?
However despite having all those friends there's always a few friends in particular you end up going for help for some reasons there's a few friends you go for advices. Have you noticed that the friend you called for advices wasn't the friend that was living the high life with you, going crazy, drinking. The friend you went to is a friend you have maybe you think that friend is cool, you like the way of thinking of that friend, you feel comfortable around this person. It often happen that when things go wrong not exactly the friends you go partying with are the one who stick by your side or come to give you advices. Usually when these partying friends give you advices are the wrong ones doesn't matter how good of a person they are, they will always give you a bad advice not because they are bad people but because they don't really know you. You can't try to give advices when you don't know the kind of person you are dealing with. You will definitely go to a friend you feel more connected spiritually.
There are many levels of friendship and people have this very wrong I will give you what I think are the levels of friendship, here you go.
Acquaintance: I don't know you, but I think everybody is my friend until they demonstrate me the opposite. These are the people I add to my facebook, see them in the street and say hi to them is all cool. There's potential for something bigger than just acquaintances. I'm starting to Get to know Janeen from New Jersey Hello Janeen. She's a pretty cool person. If I had a party I would invite her to come over. The Question is: Can I go to Janeen for advices? Chances are she gets weird out like "dude I don't even know you" or she will give me an advice based on what she barely know of me and what it worked for a similar person. Chances are she give me the wrong advice making me fail.
Friend: Is a little more advanced even if is online is more closely you communicate with this person more constantly. Victoria from Ohio Hellooo. Great person but again I can't go to her for advice chances with her advices are that she might give me a good advice she knows me better than my acquaintance previously named do but in the end she doesn't know me that well she can potentially give me a bad advice so I don't go to her for advices neither she's my last option, but I can definitely invite her to a party.
Third Party friend: Fall in the category of the previously named. Usually is a friend you know through another friend or someone related to me. You know I often crash with my father about my business. Networking based. I know his friends, their friends know me, but I need my father to speak to his friends about me wanting to talk about a business. At the end of the day my father's friends ears are more open to him than for me. I have a bunch of third party friends. As you can guess I can't go to advices to those people but I can invite my friend and "their friends". Don't get me wrong, some great friendships even love relationships happen because someone introduced you to someone.
Good Friends: These people you know in person, you always have something to talk about. My good friend Jay A, I know this guy from high School, is a cheerleader always "go Victor yes you can" "victor you are great" everybody have this friend and you can definitely go ahead and speak to this type of friends about any problems. To be honest with you Jay won't help me neither, but he would tell me what I want to hear Go ahead Victor believe in yourself. This level of friends is among the first you call for a party.
Great friends: Never gets old is this person you share most of your time or used to spend most of your time. I will count Boris F. from high school too. At difference of Jay A. we would hang out more, talk a lot about anything. Is the kind of friends you always have something to talk about. Notice that from great friends up you have something in common with that person. Maybe play the same sport, have a personality closely similar so that's why you bond, share a hobby like Boris and I well he likes to play guitar and sing I don't play any instrument but I like to sing. You see the connection? is the kind of friends you don't have to feel obligated to talk to everyday but when you do, is like the connection was never lost. This kind of friends know you very well and will give you a good advice but would tell you what you wanna hear and suggest you to change something.
Best friends: Qualify into this some friend you know for long time, a friend from high school you talk to everyday, parents (believe it or not), siblings, spouse. I am the oldest brother in the house my brothers are good guys but very independent and sometimes too childish. However when things are tough for them they all come to me. When I have a serious problem I go to my parents specially my father, brothers (for opinion on something) used to go to uncles and aunts (they are overseas or too far from me) girlfriend and lastly an unrelated best friend. This is what happen with this friend. They are not afraid of telling you what you don't want to hear, they are not afraid of really telling you what you have to hear rather than what you want to hear. When a nail twist you don't fix it with caresses you hammer it til it get straight.

But at the end of the day nobody can give you a better advice than you. You know yourself well and taking into account what your friends told you, you can make a clear decision.
But getting back in topic most friends are in for the ride but they are not willing to go with you when everything is going downhill. Since there's not much commitment in the relationship not much investments there's not much to lose. Is very likely that you lose people like Friends and acquaintances in most cases third party friends too (since the main friend is gone what am I doing here?) some will stick if their intention is become really good friend of you in the future. What I came to understand is that I don't have the power to count nobody out, but I have the power to count myself out from a friendship. People count themselves out.
You have to be careful picking up who is your friend according to Madea (Tyler Perry) check this clip from Madea Goes to Jail the play for this blog please check the clip starting at 4:40. This clip is toward the end of the play. Check it out by clicking here. Embedding of the video wasn't allowed I apologize. But is true this is something else I skipped
DON'T assume everybody will stay in your life forever. In fact nobody is guaranteed to stay there are people who come to your life to show you something. When their job is done they just leave, don't chase nobody don't waste your time. Maybe that person's job is done. Everybody is eligible to leave except family members unless someone die of course. You have to be prepared to see the end too. When you start any kind of relationship with somebody, you have to know that this relationship have a 50% chances of surviving time and 50% chances of not surviving at all. When you meet someone, again  you have a 50/50 chance of that person leaving soon from your life or staying.

Givers and takers

I think a friendship is a mutual relationship nobody is in obligation of doing more than what the other one is doing to keep the relationship alive. There are people who are very open and very giving. If you are like that be very careful. Like I explained before some people just come over and leave. Imagine after you gave so much to keep that friendship, you sacrificed so much and suddenly there's no more. I believe you would be devastated after losing something you put too much effort to keep it alive. Some people see a very giving person and think "very giving person, I just live by the days of this friendship, take what I want and leave" I hope that the lessons you get is not "not be too giving" if you see someone is not bringing nothing to the table, Why do you keep those around? they are obviously Leeches and would bounce away in the event of a single struggle.

Mixing & Matching: 

Have you been at a place where everybody is having a good time but suddenly more people come in and instead of getting even more fun, you get a tense environment instead or still fun but not like before? Why is that?
Have to be honest with you I wish I could be friends with everybody but I can't be friends with everybody. Sound shallow but I can't invite everybody at the same time to my party neither, I will explain why
You are not the only thing that other person is supposed to have in common. Why are you inviting party animals to party along your conservative friends? If a friend love politics and the other one hate politics and they don't get along why would you invite both to your party? chances are these two end up in a shouting match. Make sure you choose your friends well, make sure they have similar interests so you are not the only one talking to everybody but everybody talking to each other as well and having a good time.
Life is beautiful and full of adventures. We are born alone (unless you are twin but u still born alone) have the choice to grow alone because at the end of the day you will be buried alone. The difference is the relationships you leave behind when you gone, the memories.
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